The Journey of Loooing is a blog And about romance and dating, fulfillment and self-discovery, philosophy and human development. I'm a straight male dom; this is what I've learned on my journey. This article sat in the drafts folder for weeks; I found it hard to finish.
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It forced me to reflect on lovve things I'm single, and dislike being so — I'm a better, more effective man when I have a committed partner. I don't do kink casually, so being single means my dom side gets almost no love. Pondering my search is dispiriting, as it's a process that has no clear calendar. And it troubles me to wonder, after talking with a lot of kinky girls over the past few years, whether Lookimg girl I'm seeking even exists.
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I'm a tall order to fill, no question, but if I don't admire a girl in multiple ways, I wouldn't want to acquire her. But here it is at last, written for myself as much as for you.
I've Looking for my submissive love to highlight generally valuable qualities in a submissive partner, and deemphasize things which are singular to me.
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But an emotionally healthy girl will have some inkling of her abilities and gifts, even if she has doubts about them in some contexts. Communicates rationally when under stress. The ability to hold oneself together when stressed out or upset is invaluable.
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Isn't Looking for my submissive love funny how life is Finding that special person is hard. I am married. I starting to find BDSM quite interesting but never done it before but people are giving me hints I might like it?
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Annie NJ. Over many years I have gone back and forth with submiszive or not I should try to find a Dom. I am taking the steps now, but don't know what steps I actually should take.
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It's not easy finding your mate. I know that first Looking for my submissive love. Is it any easier finding a Dom? I have a lot of questions all mixed in a ball of fear, excitement and anticipation. I'm in NY and Calling all swingers w say NY has everything which makes finding things a little harder. I'd love to talk with you if you are willing to mentor me and offer some suggestions.
Just let me know. I am following your blog now and look forward to reading.
Thanks J. But I do think that NY would be a good place to look. There's a few other posts on this topic here that might help: Hi, Will, I'm trying to re-find your blog about being unhappily single. I cannot understand why men out here in our age group don't Bbw adult parties Juneau Alaska anything with us. I have been flirting with the idea of being a sub, because I enjoy being bossed around, and even hurt a little, sexually.
The thing is I have no idea Women search in Wismar to find someone who would be Looking for my submissive love "dom" where I live. I am currently in a sexual relationship with someone with dominant traits, which is probably why I like this man so much, but it is not serious or exclusive so I don't feel like I could talk to him about this just yet. I would describe myself as everything you wrote here so I think I have a lot to offer, and I really want to see how much I would enjoy this type of relationship, it's not something I want to forget about or put in the back of my head without at least trying.
I guess we'll have to see what happens, loved your blog, btw! I don't think a relationship has to be serious or exclusive for you to bring up your interests, desires, fantasies, etc. If you're able to talk about yourself with him at all, why not talk about your kinks? You don't have to unload everything that's whirling in your head at once, just pick a topic you think would resonate -- perhaps bondage, or spanking, or even "I love it when you boss Looking for my submissive love around.
If you wade into the kinky dating waters, see my answer above with links Looking for my submissive love other articles here on that topic.